“Mommy, am I pretty?”
“No honey, you’re beautiful”
My daughter was confused and was only wanting to know if she was pretty; if she was like the little girl on TV who mommy had called her pretty. Of course she was pretty but beyond that, I saw beauty.
I told her that when you walk through a field, you see a lot of pretty flowers. When you lean close and look at the folds of the petals, the detail of the center, smell the faint scent from the heart; you see beauty.
When you look at the sunset and see lots of colors, it’s pretty. When you pause and look at the changing shades of red, orange pink as the suns slowly sets; you see beauty.
When I look into your eyes and see your amazing soul shining through; I see beauty.
Add up all of the times that self-doubt made you hesitate; made you pause instead of doing what we wanted to do. Include the times that you avoided a situation because you felt you didn’t quite fit in or were afraid of being rejected. Don’t forget the people that could have been friends if you had been brave enough to talk, the job you might have gotten, romance you might have had and the team we might have made. The avoided events add up to a lot of missed chances for an additional moment of happiness that you missed.
What does it cost to change? Nothing but believing in yourself. Believing in yourself is the most enduring form of beauty and it costs nothing. It defeats critics, it overcomes obstacles and it lasts a lifetime. Say it:
I am Beautiful
I am Confident
I AM FEARLESS!
Say it again and again. Write it on your mirror. Make it the background on your phone and your computer. Make it the backdrop of your life.
Don’t look in the mirror, we are our own worst critic. Look at someone else’s favorite photograph of you. They love it because it captures more than your looks, it captures you. Whether it’s a picture of you being silly or serious, smiling or making a face; it shows something beyond your looks. It shows something your friend sees in you that they like, something beautiful.